He started 6th grade this year. In this area 6th grade is the first year of Middle School. Yep-Middle School. He still seems so young to me.
Anyway, school started about a month ago. Already, Chandler has had three detentions.
Oh, you heard me, Chandler has had three detentions. Now, in his defense, only one of them was behavior related. His ELAR (English/Language Arts) teacher had evidently asked him to settle down. He was working in a group and she (the teacher) came over and asked "Have you finished your questions?" to which Chandler replied, sarcastically, "maybe". Let me say that I know my child, and I know that he did NOT mean to be disrespectful, but was trying to be funny. I did, however, support his teacher in giving him a detention because I feel like he needs to learn that there is a time and place for that kind of humor. So there's that. The second detention was due to not turning in his homework. In this district, that's not an option. If you don't turn it in, you get detention and do it at school. OK, so fine. So today his Assistant Principle called. (I shouldn't even KNOW her yet!) She was very nice, but explained to me that Chandler has been "having some problems getting to class on time." Tardy. Late. Apparently, several times. So-another detention.
Now, I'll just tell you, I'm really having a problem with this. Not my Chandler. I'm struggling to know how to handle it. I have to find a way to help him to realize that Middle School is not Elementary School. That he has to take it seriously. That it is HIS responsibility to know what his homework is, and to get it done, and to get it turned in. That it is HIS responsibility to know how much time he has between classes and to get to each one on time. That I'm not going to be there all the time to keep up with it all, HE has to do it. How do I get him to understand that? I don't just want to "punish" him, I want to TEACH him.
It may be silly for "ask" for comments, especially because I don't normally get many, but HELP!